“Basically hate each other” – 90 Day Fiancé: The Other Way’s Dylan experiences drama as his mom questions Pattiya’s spending and lifestyle
In the newest episode of 90 Day Fiancé: The Other Way, the spotlight turns to Dylan and Pattiya, one of the show’s most volatile new couples, whose relationship seems to teeter on the brink of total collapse. What begins as a tense family visit quickly spirals into an emotional battlefield when Dylan’s mother openly questions Pattiya’s lifestyle, spending habits, and true intentions. What should have been a chance for understanding turns into a clash of values and personalities that leaves everyone involved shaken—and fans questioning whether Dylan and Pattiya’s relationship can possibly survive. As Dylan himself admits later in the episode, “We basically hate each other right now,” capturing the painful honesty at the heart of their crumbling romance.
The episode opens with Dylan nervously preparing his small apartment in Thailand for his mother’s arrival from the United States. He wants everything to look perfect, but the tension between him and Pattiya is already palpable. The couple exchanges clipped sentences and uneasy glances as they clean, their frustration simmering just beneath the surface. Dylan confesses to producers that he’s dreading what’s to come: his mother has always been skeptical about Pattiya, convinced that her son is being used for financial gain. “She thinks Pattiya is just with me for money,” Dylan sighs. “But she doesn’t see the whole picture.”
When Dylan’s mother finally arrives, her polite smile quickly fades into disapproval. Within minutes of meeting Pattiya, she begins scrutinizing her outfit, asking about her job, and making passive-aggressive comments about “how much it must cost to live like that in Bangkok.” Pattiya tries to stay composed, answering with courtesy, but her patience wears thin as Dylan’s mother continues to question her every response. “Do you work full-time?” “How do you afford the new phone?” “Do you plan to move to America and stop working?” The barrage of questions creates an unbearable tension. Dylan attempts to mediate, but his efforts fall flat as both women begin speaking over each other.
Pattiya, known for her strong personality, refuses to back down. She reminds Dylan’s mother that she earns her own money through online business and part-time modeling, insisting that she doesn’t rely on Dylan for financial support. But instead of easing the tension, her defense only fuels more skepticism. Dylan’s mother scoffs, implying that “online work” isn’t real and that Pattiya’s lifestyle seems too luxurious for someone in her position. The comment hits a nerve. Pattiya’s tone hardens, and she fires back, saying, “You think I’m a gold digger because I’m not American? That’s insulting.” The room falls silent. Dylan sits frozen between the two most important women in his life, completely powerless.
The next morning, the confrontation continues. Over breakfast, Dylan’s mother suggests that Pattiya should “learn how to save” and stop spending Dylan’s money on “nonsense.” Pattiya’s eyes flash with anger, and she slams her coffee cup down. “It’s my money!” she snaps. Dylan tries to calm things down, but his mother refuses to back off. “If it’s your money, then why is my son always broke?” she retorts. Pattiya storms off, shouting that she’s done being treated like a criminal. The scene perfectly captures the cultural and generational divide between them—Dylan’s traditional mother who values modesty and practicality, and Pattiya, an independent modern woman who believes in enjoying life without apology.
Later in a private interview, Dylan admits that he’s beginning to doubt the relationship. “They both make good points,” he says quietly. “My mom just wants me to be safe, but Pattiya feels judged no matter what she does. I feel like I’m being pulled apart.” The emotional toll is written all over his face. When he meets Pattiya later that evening to talk, the air is thick with resentment. Pattiya refuses to apologize, arguing that Dylan’s mother disrespected her first. “You didn’t defend me,” she accuses. Dylan, visibly frustrated, says he can’t constantly choose sides between them. Their argument escalates as they trade accusations—Pattiya claims he’s spineless, while Dylan says she only cares about herself. “We basically hate each other right now,” he mutters as he walks away, leaving Pattiya crying alone on the balcony.
The next segment shows Dylan’s mother speaking to producers, expressing her fears that her son is being manipulated. She claims Pattiya’s behavior proves she’s materialistic and immature. “She’s not ready to be a wife,” she says bluntly. But fans watching at home saw another side: many felt that Dylan’s mother was overbearing and disrespectful, inserting herself into a relationship that already had enough problems of its own. Social media erupted with debates—some defending Pattiya’s independence, others siding with Dylan’s mother and calling Pattiya’s attitude “entitled.”
Meanwhile, Pattiya confides in her best friend, expressing her exhaustion with Dylan’s indecision. “He lets his mom control everything,” she says bitterly. “If he can’t stand up for me now, how can I marry him?” Her friend advises her to think about her happiness, reminding her that love shouldn’t come with constant humiliation. Pattiya nods but admits she still loves Dylan deeply, even if she feels trapped in a no-win situation.
The emotional climax comes when Dylan and Pattiya agree to meet his mother one last time before she leaves Thailand. The dinner starts tense but civil—until the topic of marriage comes up. Dylan’s mother says she won’t support their wedding until Pattiya proves she’s financially independent. Pattiya, fed up, declares that she doesn’t need anyone’s approval. “If Dylan doesn’t believe in me, then we’re done,” she says, her voice trembling. Dylan remains silent for several seconds before finally speaking. “I love you,” he says softly, “but maybe we need time apart.” Pattiya’s face crumples in heartbreak, and she walks out without another word.
The final scenes are emotionally devastating. Dylan’s mother tries to comfort her son, but he’s too distraught to respond. Alone in his room, he admits to the cameras that he feels like he’s lost everything. “I wanted them to get along so badly,” he says. “But now I don’t even know who I’m fighting for anymore.” Meanwhile, Pattiya packs her suitcase, whispering that love shouldn’t hurt this much. The episode ends with a montage of their happier moments—smiling on the beach, laughing in cafés—now painfully contrasted with their current misery.
This episode of 90 Day Fiancé: The Other Way perfectly encapsulates the emotional turbulence that defines the series. Dylan and Pattiya’s love story, once full of promise, has become a cautionary tale about the destructive power of judgment, pride, and cultural misunderstanding. While Dylan’s mother believes she’s protecting her son, her interference may have permanently damaged the fragile relationship he was trying to save. At the same time, Pattiya’s fierce independence and refusal to compromise reveal both her strength and her vulnerability. By the episode’s end, the couple’s future remains uncertain, leaving fans heartbroken and divided over who to blame. One thing, however, is clear—this love story may not survive the storm it has unleashed, and both Dylan and Pattiya are left wondering whether their bond was ever strong enough to withstand the pressure of two very different worlds colliding.
